Unexpected reaction to seeing a fellow blogger's construction mess....

For the first time (literally) in my whole life, I just had the weirdest reaction to seeing a remodel in progress... instead of feeling the excitement, the urge to remodel something myself in our home or starting to ooo and ahh over the plans and hope of the beautiful ending; I simply got a horrible feeling in the pit of my stomach and I felt so overwhelmed I wanted to cry.  And it wasn't MY remodel!

Boy was that different.

I grew up in constant transition of remodeled houses.  From the time I was 1 year old until I moved out when I was 18, we lived in 4 different homes, only 1 of which was bought and left 'as is' while we lived there, and that is only because we lived there just 1 1/2 years before the lifestyle of a big city, neighbors on top of neighbors and burglaries in our neighborhood made my Dad say, "This isn't for us!" and moved us to a small, safe and family-centered town in the middle of the state.  The house we moved into by the way was completely ripped apart down to... well, I would say 'the stud' but honestly, even most of those came out.   We didn't have an outside wall at one point, and no floor at all during another.  An attic door upstairs opened to the air (and a 20 foot drop to the kitchen floor below) during another stage. 

And yes, sheets were hung as makeshift walls during another.  (For the record my Dad sent my Mom and us kids to stay with Grandma for 2 weeks during the portion of remodeling that included the 'no floor' and straight drop to the old unfinished, concrete floor of the basement below).

Our next two houses had similar remodels to the one in the photo above.  We would buy a home, and Mom would spend hours with graphing paper, designing the layout and then she and Dad would make final decisions and Dad would then start the demolition, reconstruction, new construction and remodel.  Our homes were gorgeous, functional and updated by the time we would move again! 

Even throughout my own marriage I've always jumped in feet first to any remodel, project or new idea... 

So why this sudden stomach churning reaction to seeing the chaos, mess and clutter of a fellow bloggers kitchen project?

I have no idea!?

I just had the sudden feeling of being overwhelmed and that it would never end, and I'd be living in that chaos for a couple months and how sick to my stomach it made me feel.

And it's NOT my kitchen.  I don't even know this blogger in real life and I am pretty sure she lives half a country away.

I guess it's an instinctive gut reaction telling me to not even THINK about any major remodel to our home right now.  That emotionally and physically, perhaps we've had FAR TOO MUCH else going on in our lives for the last year or so and that I need a bit of a break before embarking on another round of chaos and confusion?

Ha ha. I don't know.

But we DO have a bunch of Autumn projects that MUST BE DONE as soon as we gather up enough stray nickles and pennies and hundreds of dollars to get them done.  Most of the priorities are 'outside' issues...  left ignored for about 2 years now.  So... now have become a priority.

But I AM having to decorate the master bedroom soon.
Very soon.
Because we've lived here now for 4 years and that bedroom is still wondering what it wants to be when it grows up.
I've hated everything I've attempted to do with it (because I never actually had the money to DO anything with it, really) but I bought ONE FOCAL PIECE for the wall that I love and am going to build the decor around that.

I have a feeling that once I actually DO this, perhaps fate will tell us it's time to relocate again.  Which, assuming it's to a place I'd actually like to go, wouldn't be a bad thing!


Blog Update: no regrets so far

Sipping coffee this morning and thought I should update.

It's been two weeks (?) now since we decided Mr. Husband will continue to commute for now and we will not relocate to the new city.  As soon as we made the decision that day, we both felt great about it but the real 'proof is in the pudding'.  How have we felt since?

Relief.  Not overwhelming, dramatic relief.  Just the kind that passes through your brain and you find yourself smiling. 

Both of us feel this way.  And the weird thing is, it wasn't even a 'decision' that had to be made.  It just... was.

There was absolutely not a time during the decision process when it even, for one second, was a possibility.  A 'thing' that had to be decided.  It was almost like watching the whole process on a tv show and being a disinterested third party.  There was no feeling at all and never, not once, a pull to move there.  A feeling like we should move there.  Needing to make a decision if we should move there.  Nothing.

It was just driving around some random city and then going home.  There was never really a decision to be made.  It was that strong of a non-decision.  It really didn't even have to be decided.

Neither of us felt anything at all.  So saying "Huh, nope. Not moving here."  was really all that had to be said, and then life went on like normal.  As a non-issue.

Kind of weird that there wasn't more to it.  But it just felt so dead to us that it never was a question of moving.  We just weren't.


Most overpriced cities in America

To find the Most Overpriced cities, Forbes started with America’s 100 largest Metropolitan Statistical Areas and Metropolitan Divisions, all with populations of 600,000 or more. MSAs and MDs are cities and their surrounding suburbs as defined by the Office of Management and Budget. First we looked at housing affordability, using the latest Housing Opportunity Index from the National Association of Home Builders and Wells Fargo. The quarterly index weighs median prices for homes sold against median income levels to determine the percentage of homes that are affordable to residents making the median income.

Due to a lack of sufficient data, Baton Rouge and New Orleans, La., as well as Columbia, S.C.; Gary, Ind.; Kansas City, Mo.; Little Rock, Ark.; Nashville, Tenn.; and Omaha, Neb. had to be excluded from results.


25. West Palm Beach, Fla.

24. Philadelphia, Penn.

23. Los Angeles, Calif.

22. Fresno, Calif.

21. Portland, Ore.

20. Providence, R.I.

19. Santa Ana, Calif.

18. Miami, Fla.

17. Riverside, Calif.

16. Seattle, Wash.

15. Edison, N.J.

14. Stockton, Calif.

13. San Diego, Calif.

12. Sacramento, Calif.

11. Long Island, N.Y.

10. Bergen County, N.J.

9. Essex County, Mass.

8. San Jose, Calif.

7. Oakland, Calif.

6. San Francisco, Calif.

5. Cambridge, Mass.

4. New York, N.Y.

3. Boston, Mass.

2. Southern Conn.

1. Honolulu, Hawaii

Honolulu, HI
Median Family Income:$82,600
Q4 2014 median sales price:$509,000
Housing affordable at median family income: 35.3%
Cost Above National Average:
Groceries:55.3%; Utilities:77.8%; Transportation: 26.7%; Health:15.7%; Misc.: 22.5%


Entry to Update: We visited the area

This past weekend was 'D' Day.  Decision Day.
Time for the two of us to drive to the new city DH was relocated to - see the area from MY point of view (which is different than my husbands) and to look at the area.

My husband drives to work with one thing on his mind.  Work.
He takes the exit, drives to work only noticing the lights, traffic and his own direct route.

I drive the same route and notice traffic patterns, stores, post office and court house locations.  Grocery stores. Clothing stores. Schools. Churches.

See the difference?

So with my eyes, we drove to the area.  We drove to his place of work (my first time seeing it!  Very nice!) and then, tried to find the things I would need to run our lives.  I'm not going to get into the history of this city here, but they've made very stupid mistakes, they do not have a good reputation and apparently, a very, very stupid city council.  Although they've had a horrible town history, they had a chance to start new about 2 years ago but the people in power at the time made bad decisions and now they are kicking themselves for it.

There is almost nothing positive or good about this town and no reason for anyone to move there.  But there is a sister-city they share a boundary with that has made better decisions, has better growth and incidentally, a better livability score, lower crime, etc. etc.  Since all shopping and daily errands would be done over their boundary line (there ARE no options on the other city side due to bad, bad decisions) we traveled and...  wow.  ALL retail is built around ONE EXIT ON THE INTERSTATE.

So you are getting on and off the interstate at the same exit as almost every retail establishment in the city.

If you travel 1 block away from the interstate you will find... crickets.  Crickets.

Fast food, a mall, Walmart, Sam's Club, Hobby Lobby, Dick's Sporting Goods, Kirklands, Restaurants, Orthodontists, Target, Kohls, Banks, hardware stores...   could they CRAM anything more into this tiny little area!???

The traffic was horrendous - cars in the middle of intersections caught between red and green lights, cars turning into fast food or gas stations right next to those entering Walmart or Sam's, right next to those trying to get to a restaurant and those trying to go to the bank.

After driving around a bit we stopped at a McDonalds, ate lunch and opened the laptop to view the housing situation.

I took a picture of my husband while he was searching. 

The scowl is prominent.

Together, we decided that at least for NOW, a relocation is not in our best interest.
That may or may not change in a few months.  And he did have to sign a contract for 2 years at this location.  But for now, the 1 1/4 hour commute is worth it to not relocate there and stay where we are at.

So we came home.


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It was announced

This week we announced the promotion on our family page... with the large print reading that we don't know if we are moving and we don't know when that might be.

The plan is to drive to the area next weekend - check out the city, the towns nearby and drive by a few of the houses we've seen online to get an idea of the neighborhoods and the feel of the area.

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