Since deciding not to relocate and to just drive for now, things are going well. It's a long day for DH, but not necessarily because of the commute. Yeah, an hour and 15 minutes is a long drive, but he's commuted most of our marriage and actually wants a drive at least 40 minutes as he has always said a 45-ish minute commute is good as it helps him wind down from the day or gear up for it. Just quiet time and he enjoys it. So, this is about a half hour more... but he doesn't seem to mind.
He said he loves turning onto our road and knowing he is almost 'home' and that it feels good leaving work and leaving that city behind.
So... good decision.
In the meantime we have SO MANY projects to accomplish before we DO get a chance to move for real. We anticipate it will be a year or so as he has a contract obligation at his current location that only a district management level can override.
- Entryway ceiling painted (about 18 feet up so it's not a quick fix!)
- Office ceiling painted (same height) - MUST BUY TALLER LADDER as mine doesn't reach
- Bedroom painted
- Dining Room trim painted
- Family Room completely painted
- 3 new replacement roses planted this Fall to make up for the ones dying for some reason (???)
- Delivery of a couple yards of gray rock to the parking area by the drive
- Trees taken out near the house - probably 3 of them
- Mulch side of house
- Power wash the house - moss and mold (gotta love the deep South!)
- New rugs in entryway and stair base, etc. (big $$)
- New rugs in kitchen and halls where dogs are allowed on hardwood
- Baseboards painted for a fresh look
- Grout in the main floor bathroom repaired where it's cracking above the duct work under the flooring due to temperature variance
Oh... this list is making my head hurt.
Sipping coffee this morning and thought I should update.
It's been two weeks (?) now since we decided Mr. Husband will continue to commute for now and we will not relocate to the new city. As soon as we made the decision that day, we both felt great about it but the real 'proof is in the pudding'. How have we felt since?
Relief. Not overwhelming, dramatic relief. Just the kind that passes through your brain and you find yourself smiling.
Both of us feel this way. And the weird thing is, it wasn't even a 'decision' that had to be made. It just... was.
There was absolutely not a time during the decision process when it even, for one second, was a possibility. A 'thing' that had to be decided. It was almost like watching the whole process on a tv show and being a disinterested third party. There was no feeling at all and never, not once, a pull to move there. A feeling like we should move there. Needing to make a decision if we should move there. Nothing.
It was just driving around some random city and then going home. There was never really a decision to be made. It was that strong of a non-decision. It really didn't even have to be decided.
Neither of us felt anything at all. So saying "Huh, nope. Not moving here." was really all that had to be said, and then life went on like normal. As a non-issue.
Kind of weird that there wasn't more to it. But it just felt so dead to us that it never was a question of moving. We just weren't.
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25. West Palm Beach, Fla.
24. Philadelphia, Penn.
23. Los Angeles, Calif.
22. Fresno, Calif.
21. Portland, Ore.
20. Providence, R.I.
19. Santa Ana, Calif.
18. Miami, Fla.
17. Riverside, Calif.
16. Seattle, Wash.
15. Edison, N.J.
14. Stockton, Calif.
13. San Diego, Calif.
12. Sacramento, Calif.
11. Long Island, N.Y.
10. Bergen County, N.J.
9. Essex County, Mass.
8. San Jose, Calif.
7. Oakland, Calif.
6. San Francisco, Calif.
5. Cambridge, Mass.
4. New York, N.Y.
3. Boston, Mass.
2. Southern Conn.
1. Honolulu, Hawaii
Median Family Income:$82,600
Q4 2014 median sales price:$509,000
Housing affordable at median family income: 35.3%
Cost Above National Average:
Groceries:55.3%; Utilities:77.8%; Transportation: 26.7%; Health:15.7%; Misc.: 22.5%
This past weekend was 'D' Day. Decision Day.
Time for the two of us to drive to the new city DH was relocated to - see the area from MY point of view (which is different than my husbands) and to look at the area.
My husband drives to work with one thing on his mind. Work.
He takes the exit, drives to work only noticing the lights, traffic and his own direct route.
I drive the same route and notice traffic patterns, stores, post office and court house locations. Grocery stores. Clothing stores. Schools. Churches.
See the difference?
So with my eyes, we drove to the area. We drove to his place of work (my first time seeing it! Very nice!) and then, tried to find the things I would need to run our lives. I'm not going to get into the history of this city here, but they've made very stupid mistakes, they do not have a good reputation and apparently, a very, very stupid city council. Although they've had a horrible town history, they had a chance to start new about 2 years ago but the people in power at the time made bad decisions and now they are kicking themselves for it.
There is almost nothing positive or good about this town and no reason for anyone to move there. But there is a sister-city they share a boundary with that has made better decisions, has better growth and incidentally, a better livability score, lower crime, etc. etc. Since all shopping and daily errands would be done over their boundary line (there ARE no options on the other city side due to bad, bad decisions) we traveled and... wow. ALL retail is built around ONE EXIT ON THE INTERSTATE.
So you are getting on and off the interstate at the same exit as almost every retail establishment in the city.
If you travel 1 block away from the interstate you will find... crickets. Crickets.
Fast food, a mall, Walmart, Sam's Club, Hobby Lobby, Dick's Sporting Goods, Kirklands, Restaurants, Orthodontists, Target, Kohls, Banks, hardware stores... could they CRAM anything more into this tiny little area!???
The traffic was horrendous - cars in the middle of intersections caught between red and green lights, cars turning into fast food or gas stations right next to those entering Walmart or Sam's, right next to those trying to get to a restaurant and those trying to go to the bank.
After driving around a bit we stopped at a McDonalds, ate lunch and opened the laptop to view the housing situation.
I took a picture of my husband while he was searching.
The scowl is prominent.
Together, we decided that at least for NOW, a relocation is not in our best interest.
That may or may not change in a few months. And he did have to sign a contract for 2 years at this location. But for now, the 1 1/4 hour commute is worth it to not relocate there and stay where we are at.
So we came home.
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The plan is to drive to the area next weekend - check out the city, the towns nearby and drive by a few of the houses we've seen online to get an idea of the neighborhoods and the feel of the area.
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